ABOUT ME

I am a 35-year-old woman who has spent a significant portion of their life navigating the single status. While I've had meaningful relationships, including ones where we lived together and an engagement was to be considered, I found that my search for genuine partnership led me to moments of settling, grappling with the challenges of dating, and wrestling with persistent doubts. I questioned what I wanted, I lowered my expectations, and I mistook others' affection for me as mutual. I simply said yes to people that were saying yes to me. This led to a cycle of heartbreak over men that had I taken the time to truly consider, I might have discovered that I, too, wasn't genuinely interested. I was, as they say, looking for love in all the wrong places. 

 In the pursuit of love, I've explored diverse avenues – dating apps, blind dates, friend setups, matchmakers, and a myriad of dating events. Admittedly, there were moments when the dating landscape felt overwhelming, leading me to settle for less due to the challenges and doubts that crept in. In the end, settling meant giving time to a dead-end relationship simply because I became willing to accept any relationship as opposed to waiting for the right relationship.

After countless dates and a series of unsuccessful relationships, I underwent a personal introspection, reevaluating my choices and approach to dating. Recognizing the importance of being the right person to attract the right match, I delved into understanding my core values, identifying compromises, and establishing non-negotiables. Implementing simple changes and techniques transformed my dating experience. Each date felt like a step forward, as opposed to a dead end, eventually leading me to the fulfilling, supportive partnership I am in today.